Actually to be really honest, my parents have never restricted me from talking to people or going out…unless the call was really long or if I came home late…

The behaviour of his mother was something different to me and I never quite accepted it, the very first time he complained, I told him to talk to her and talk about boundaries and he said that I don’t know his mum and he cannot talk to her about anything without shouting. After that I never discussed or suggested anything in this regard and unlike in other matters he did not even ask for my opinion.

I remember he did not tell me this but when he made me meet his cousin brother once, he told me are you really sure about him, his anger issues are really bad, do you know he ran away from his home one night after a bad argument with his mum when he was 16. We searched and searched and found him at a park really far away from home… It was difficult to convince him to come back. Make sure you know him well before dating him to which I had replied that

He might have been that way, it was his past. I don’t want to judge him on that but I have never seen him getting angry with me in a way that I cannot handle so I think I know who I am dating and I am sure about him.

His cousin’s words seemed harsh to me and I did not think about that incident until now that I am inspecting his current behaviour, the pressure of family and his past.

His college friends also had Something similar to say that he has anger management issues but to be frank he never remained angry with me more than 15-20 mins.

He had told me when in senior high, he took meditation classes on his mother’s insistence and that had calmed him down a lot since childhood. And he told me this before I met the cousin or his college friends. He never really connected to people, made friends but soon used to find faults with them. He is not a bad man but he has trouble communicating his feelings to people and so when they take advantage to him, he will wait and wait and wait till it is too much and then just burst with angry words and stop talking to them.