Dear Soul-searcher:

You posted about this man, this relationship since 2015. It may be helpful for you to read your own posts over time. Maybe you can learn something from your shares over the years.

In February last year, 2017, you wrote: “he had the pressure of having to deal with my insecurities and my anxieties but he never wanted to help or support me on a deeper level.. he thought telling me ‘you look really good’ ‘you are beautiful’ once in a while would make me feel better.. but it never helped my underlying issues and maybe this wasn’t his place to do so and I should have looked for professional help. He has his own issues and had mine to deal with too and not everyone can juggle too much at the same time.. I get that”-

When I think of a guy burdened by his issues, dealing with difficult life circumstances, the military, deployments, long hours, combat zone, divorce and a son he shares with an ex wife.. and then there is a girlfriend with … her issues expecting him to heal her, I too think it is “too much at the same time”. I too get that.

You shared that the two of you, separately, attended psychological counseling. I don’t suppose you currently are? In any case, not enough was accomplished to make a difference in your experience of life. Nor in this case, correct?

anita