Dear FullOfRemorse:

The first indication of his anger at you is in your original post: “2 months later we had a huge argument because of my unwillingness to commit”- he was angry at you then.

It is possible that he still is angry at you and that the few weeks of stringing you along, including this recent message is about hurting you. When a person feels anger, the natural motivation is to hurt the object of one’s anger. Animals do that, it is an animal’s anger that motivated the angry animal to fight, that is, to physically harm another animal

It may very well be that he is trying to hurt you, to punish you.

Can you imagine, that his message “I can’t stop thinking of you” is meant not to reach out to you with love, but to hurt you?

You “feel utterly down and heartbroken again”- success, on his part, if I am correct.

anita