Dear Mathilde-S:

February this year you were in love with another man. You wrote then: “more than anything I wonder IF I will ever move on, stop thinking about him every singe day”-

Well, you did move on, in a way. That is, the object of your attachment changed, it is another man now. But the attachment is the same (you mentioned anxious attachment style on the other thread).

Your anxiety fueled behavior in your past relationship contributed to the ending of that relationship. This may be happening here as well. In reality, there is nothing a man can do to calm your anxiety day after day or night. The moment there is something change in his behavior, right away the anxiety is triggered.

Time for quality psychotherapy perhaps, so to deal with, manage and start an ongoing healing process, healing from your anxiety, that is?

anita