Dear Derek:

You are welcome. I don’t know if by the time you are reading this, you still feel that “a breakup is imminent”, but if you do, I agree that it may be what you need, not because he is a bad guy or that you don’t love him, but because your anxiety has been too intense and too long in the context of this relationship. Your anxiety has been flourishing in the context of your relationship.

A break up will not remove your anxiety permanently, it will not heal you from anxiety, but it will probably give you some much needed relief. And you do need relief.

Please let me know of our current thoughts and feelings and if you shared them with him.

anita