Dear L:

I think it is too late to save this relationship and that you shouldn’t try. It will not be right for him, so for his own benefit, I do hope, you let him and it (the relationship with him) go. Let it be in your past and stay there.

In your future relationship, there it is that you can make all the difference, there you can implement what you learn from this past relationship. I hope you focus on your future relationship, although it is not yet in your life.

As a matter of fact, regarding honesty  (“I’m hurting due to my lack of honesty”)- you can practice more honesty with the people who are currently in your life, in any context. It will prepare you for that future romantic relationship.

anita