Hi Stephen,

Sorry it’s been a whole year that you’ve been working in a high pressure position in an area you’re unfamiliar with and not right for. I understand you’ve done well in previous stress filled roles at work, but I find that as I get older, managing work related stress gets more difficult. It’s almost like the cushion or buffer that allows some people (like me) to function well in stressful environments begins to wear thin to the point where we just don’t want to do it anymore. Dealing with the death of both parents not long before taking on this new work challenge has exacerbated the situation for you (as it would anyone), I’m thinking. And you’re the main breadwinner in your family. I can certainly understand how all of the above would give rise to panic attacks and a tougher than normal episode of depression. Is it possible to get out of this job and back into something you are more familiar with and confident in that is less anxiety producing? You did the right thing by downsizing. With no mortgage and less financial pressure, finding a healthier balance between work and fun (if this is possible) may help you feel better mentally. I think most of us reach a point where we believe our high earning days are behind us and realize that there’s more to life than work. For me, having the time to do the little things I look forward to like going to a movie, museum, book store, etc. is better than having a dream home in an expensive neighborhood. Do you have any time in your life to do the things you love? And do you think if your wife saw a happier, less stressed husband that she would feel better about this move?

B