Dear Matt,

I think I can relate to some of the feelings you were describing.

Rather than sharing your insecurities, have you tried to share some of the things you like and invite her to discover new activities or hobbies?

By this way, you open up little by little and experience things together and have a common ground?

I have also observed than when people become distant, the other is reacting rather than acting, reacting by become even more distant and maybe this is why you feel deconnected from her.

Have you pointed out other patterns from your past relationships?

Helen