Dear MissUnderstood:

You are welcome.

Reads to me that the reason for that night may very well be something like this: he didn’t sleep well the night before and was tired that day, distressed over making less money and over the anniversary of him losing a limb and living without a limb every day since. So he went to a bar as it is his habit and not something you disapprove of, as I understand it. In the bar he drinks and then drinks some more, more than the usual. More alcohol, less judgment, and he forgets almost that he is in a relationship, not having in mind your value in his life, forgetting. There is a woman there and the habit of before, of  picking up a woman and taking her home is activated.

“can a person truly love someone and want to be with them but cheat on them?”- if my scenario is true to the reality of what happened that night, or close enough, then my answer is: yes, a person can truly love anther and do what he did because he was tired, distressed, drunk and an old habit resumed. He wasn’t thinking.

And if I am correct, his habit of going to a bar without you may be questioned now. I think it has to be.

anita