Dear joanna:

I don’t know all that happened, how and why but I do understand this: you and him got together, two people unskilled at intimate relationships, and it got messed up and ended. He was way too fast, and you sensed that correctly, this is his desperation, his problem that he brought into this short relationship. You brought your problems. There was inadequate communication between the two of you, incorrect, unchecked assumptions made. He is 50% responsible for what happened and you are about equally responsible.

And what happened is not the end of the world, not a reason “to destroy my head and face”. You are feeling badly but notice: your life circumstances now are the same as before you met him.

Your life circumstances now are the same as before you met him. Nothing has changed. The sky is not falling down. The world did not and is not ending. It is the same as before. Do you agree?

anita