Dear Anita,

Believing what this true is a big part of healing I see. What is really true, not the memory plugged in my mind. I have been doing an exercise yesterday that helped a lot.

I would see something which would ignite a memory. I would then observe what comes to mind but dig deeper and see the true reality. I would then remind myself the whole memory, not just the first thought.

For example I saw an ice cream truck on our walk. First thing – oh my mom used to always take us. Full thing – oh my mom always said how she ran as fast as she could with us to the ice cream truck, she mentions it into adulthood. Normal. No. What she did is not an act of god and to repeat it as to get credit for it cheapens the experience.

To see the reality is liberating. To accept it is key