Dear Anita

what exactly is the inconsistency? Yes I added the gym element to explain it was more less an hour and a half because before going for a coffee we went to the gym. When he first proposed this meeting he said we would go to this gym together, very casual, and then to sit and talk for a coffee, but he also said he was infatuated with me in the past, so I knew it could be more like a date. But then when we met he said about this football match, that he doesn’t have much time. and I felt insecure and thought maybe he doesn’t like me.

Yes that’s correct, I didn’t communicate to him any feelings, I said it’s okay we can meet again, why not. I liked him. But then he started writing all this about us being together, and it was all after this first meeting. He said he’s so happy I agreed to meet, he never thought I would want to see him, He always dreamed of me, and he’s happy it”s “finally happening” like it’s obvious we’re going to be a couple now etc. After he asked me can we go on vacation for 5 days next week I told him it’s a bit overwhelming and maybe just slow down a little with expressing too much, and that I like him but prefer for things to happen step by step so maybe just chill down a bit and see what happens.

I don’t know, does that sound like I shouldn’t have agreed to see him again, or was I not honest by continuing dating when I didn’t have any feelings for him. Or am I a bad person because I didn’t feel anything and he did (or he just said he did) and I should have ended this right away after first time.