Mark, you raise some great points. I agree with on all of them. It is so hard for me to express why this doesn’t bother me more. I mean, not talking to him bothers me but the fact that he is this way I understand for some reason. His last relationship of 17 years was very abusive and I believe he just is messed up from it and probably cannot change. I know people CAN but just not sure if he would even want to try. He has had ALOT of therapy in his life.

I wish I wouldn’t let things build up and then approach him in the wrong way.

I feel like I am the one who needs to change because he is so easy to be with and is so good to me in every other way.

I think deep inside of me I am afraid he wouldn’t want to have to change or go to therapy.

I just want him in my life to talk with and be with.  If I were to run him off I would be mad at myself.

Thanks again for your wise words, Mark.