Hi George. Thank you so much for responding. Let me discuss and respond:

No, happiness/success is not gauged by love or sex, it’s about how much you appreciate and love yourself. But prior to this, you have a lot of works to do, you’ll need look for a full time counselor on daily or weekly basic to be able to give your guidance on how to function your life.

Yes, I get this, but it is hard to appreciate and love myself if I have no human love or affection. I have been alone most of my life and it is very painful not to be able to share your life with another person. I have a counselor and have been going for a while now, but frankly I haven’t really fixed anything. Going to counseling has kept me from killing myself, but I haven’t made any progress beyond that.

Trust yourself, you ain’t a failure, you’re just unlucky at this phase of your life where you keep your career on and off. You are still doing great. Life is all about sometimes you fail, sometimes you win. The fact that you have to admit that everyone is unique, your wife has higher money making abilities and it doesn’t mean you are either. All you have to do your best to look for another job, and from there, you strive again.

Yes, I have been looking for months now and have had a few interviews – and have been turned down for each job. I fear I will never find work again at my age.

Reading from what you described that your wife has threaten to divorce it seems like you’re on the verge of the marriage now. Things gonna be messy at this point of time. As of now, could you discuss with your wife, amiably, that you would want to keep this marriage going and seek advice from couple therapist and do some adjustment to make the marriage working?

Unfortunately, this relationship is irretrievably broken. She wants a divorce now – I want one when our youngest is out of the house. There is absolutely no chance of making this marriage work. She wants out, and if she wants out I want out.