Dear ME:

You are welcome.

“it takes honesty, listening skills and emotional awareness on both partners to really achieve that (a safe environment to work on issues)”- I agree.

She told you that she will “use the time for reflection and to ‘reset'”- I hope you ask her when you have a chance, later, about her reflection and reset aim and if she achieved that, and what she came up with.

You wrote that in the recent communication with her, you sensed “more openness on her part” and that “lines of communication are open again”- part of future communication with her will have to be about the next time she gets angry at you. About not closing those lines of communication, not for long anyway ( short time out is acceptable, I suppose).

“I should not focus on whether we will get back together, but rather on continuing to heal and maintaining such a mindset that, if the right conditions for us to get back together show up again, then I will be able to identify and seize the opportunity as a better partner myself”-

I would add to it, right after “if the right conditions for us .. show up again”, the following:

-and if the anger issue is resolved and the two of us have practiced in communicating well through anger, “then I will…”

Looking forward to you posting again.

anita