Dear C,

I second that it is close to impossible to read and understand other people mind. Even if they open up fully. From my experience, trying to get some clarity and closure is just a waste of time and energy. I know you would gladly dedicate yours to solve the puzzle. Why? Because you care.  It is important to you. She is important to you.

Again, from my experience, I have never met anyone who, being genuinely intersted, would not find time and energy for the object of their interest.

Your devotion to her would be flattering to many women. So why losing someone so caring and understanding.

The risk for you, however, is to engage in thher endless mind-games and be hurt over amd over. I find she acts pushy pully and it doesn’t feel good to me.

I know this is not what you would like to read… I am sorry about that. And I feel for you.

So, if you find yourself capable of keep going with your life, meeting and dating other ladies, then I would probably keep seeing her as a friend for a while to see where it takes you.

But, if you are really involved and and she occupies most of your daydreams, then it is probably a good idea to go no contact with her in order to forget her and move on.