Dear Classy:

You wrote: “I grew up in an abusive home. I felt like I didn’t have anyone that helped me, so I wanted to do my best to help others. When I found my ex, also from an abusive home, I wanted to help him”. I think it was your effort to help the little helpless child that you were, the one who was not helped by anyone.

When your efforts to help him came to an end, unsuccessfully, you found yourself experiencing what you did as a little girl, in your home of origin, “a shell of a person.. isolated, resentful… so much rage”

You wrote regarding the latter, “This is not me”. I think it is not all that you are, and it definitely is not what you want to experience, but I do think this is a significant part of you still there.

What do you think?

anita