Dear Hannah:

I think it is good thinking on your part, to “try and enjoy my life outside of a relationship and fill it with things that I cherish instead of simply focusing on the person I am dating and hoping that somehow they will fix all my problems and make me happy”.

If you could manage your relationship with this man so to focus on those other things with him as a partner, as a team of two, that will be wonderful, that is, incorporating him into your process of living a better life. After all, you need people, you need at least one close, active relationship in your life.

anita