Dear risha:

It is out of your control then. He is who he is and will not marry you. So what are you to do other than move on?

Learn all you can from the experience. Then proceed. If you do want to get married, and in the Muslim religion or culture, a 39 year old woman is too old to get married (no matter how young she looks), well, maybe you can meet and marry a man who does not share this belief or sentiment. There are such men.

Better find out first, if and when you meet another man, what he believes..  before you invest more of your time and hopes. If the man believes you are too old to marry, don’t date him. If he cares what his Parents believe, then leave him to his parents.

I hope you feel better soon. Post anytime you’d like and I’ll be glad to respond to you.

anita