Dear rubia2018:

You asked: “Should I ask for an open relationship? Should I completely block him and forget about him?”

My answer: it may be the second but before you move on, tell him the truth. Even if he doesn’t hear it, at the least you will hear yourself saying it. The truth is as I understand it, that you want, not an open relationship with him, but a committed, monogamous relationship with him.

Truth is that you are not indifferent and chill, I think is the word.

Like you wrote, you were not clear with him, you did send him “the wrong signals”. You were dishonest with him because you were scared and confused, but dishonest nonetheless. Was he dishonest with you as well, being “cold and distant” at times because he is also afraid of being hurt- maybe. It is possible that your wrong signals were effective in adding to a preexisting fear on his part, fearing that a woman he is involved with will leave him for another man. I don’t know.

You may be able to read him (“I can’t read him”) after you let him read you correctly as you tell him what is really going on in your mind and heart.

anita