Hi Penguin,

Forgiveness is an inside job. It is actually HIS job to ask forgiveness of YOU! There can be no true forgiveness without a modicum of redemption from the other person, IMHO. So let that crap go. YOU don’t HAVE to do anything! No, not even forgive. HE has to EARN it!

He probably is a different person by now. (I should hope so!) If you are brave enough, look him up. If you find out that he’s married and has a daughter I would contact him and say pointedly, “I hope the boys in your daughter’s life one day don’t treat her the way you treated me.” He will get flustered and defensive. Then simply remind him of THE TRUTH. You bet you’ll get an apology. If not, say, “In the words of Elenore Roosevelt ‘Life gets easier when you accept an apology you didn’t get’.”

Then hang up.

Best,

Inky