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Ladybug
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Yes there are a few small reasons but none that could cause someone to run with fear like he did. He is not perfect and he knows that therefor we each have our faults and we have always been open and honest about it. We both are fully aware that we are still growing and learning. Based on all that has happened i have realized that he was still finding himself. Having to be a man, a provider and to be sure of himself is something he battles with because he wants to be a champion in his fighting career but his career comes with alot of challengers and sometimes failures and results in him battling with low self esteem, low drive, and on the edge of depression. This is something i know for sure now is that if he does not feel good within himself , its very hard for him to be happy with me. He is a man looking to be secure financially and within himself… He truly wants to be a good man and excellent at what he does, hes scared of failure. Deep in his subconscious somewhere he feels if he fails he is not worthy of me, and that is something i cant change his mind about. Until he feels a certain type of security within himself he can not give his time and attention to me. I will not be a first priority until he is secure, and that is not my journey to walk although i can support and love him regardless. i have to respect that he is still young and finding himself is part of his maturing and becoming a man. All i need to do is be his peace and allow him the space to get through certain feelings he has. Knowing all i know now helps me not take his bad moods and distant mind personally. He is good to me, he is gentle and loving when his heart is open but when he is feeling under the weather or going through growing pains within himself or his career i need to show him love and give him space instead of feeling like i did something wrong.