Dear Risha:

The world is big, but the world each one of us lives in is as big as the distance between our ears. And the most powerful part of that in-between-the-ears world is our experience as children with our parents. And so, your ex boyfriend’s world was established way before he met you. This is why he “left (you) for his Parents”, the title of your thread. This is why perhaps you wrote Parents with a capital P. For a person, his parents are God, capital G, capital P.

There was not, is not a clear separation for him between himself and his parents. He negotiated a compromise of sorts, chose a woman young enough to satisfy them, financially established enough to satisfy himself.

If I was to go back in time and was dating or available to date men, I would first learn about the man’s relationship with his parents, past and present, that will give me the information I need about the nature of his world, the world in-between-his ears, and I would choose based on that, to proceed or to stop.

anita