Dear Notebookb6:

You needed then and you need now to see your parents happy, and you needed to see them happy with you being in their lives. Is it true to you as it was for me, that you don’t allow yourself to be happy, feeling guilty or not deserving to be happy until your parents are happy first?

You wrote earlier about your ex boyfriend: “he is the happy go lucky type of person, when I was unhappy (which happen most of the time)” and in your recent post you suggested that his parents are happy people. Did you feel guilty or disloyal to your parents by being happy with them all, feeling you were betraying your parents?

anita