Anita, I forgot to answer your question about looking inward about the unresolved pain i was carrying regarding my dad passing away from cancer and the answer is yes.  I started reading books about grieving and forgiving myself for being scared and not being there when he took his last breath.  I spoke to my sister and my mom about how each of us dealt with and remember the last moments.  its was very therapeutic because we had not spoken about it together since it happened 9 years ago.