I’m updating this as I am for further need of advice.

Lots of things have changed, we are now back to living in the same city (both go to uni and it started again).

We have spent LOTS of time together, sleeping at each other’s house every night, or almost every night, having dinner together almost every night as well. We go to yoga classes together, go to the movies/out for dinner or events, go for walks, go to cafes, just lots of times together in general. Neither me nor him ever had that with anyone.

I guess all this time spent together made any mystery/nervousness/excitement about him subside.

I guess I am maybe a bit bored every now and then and not crazy about him at times. Most of the time I do look at him and feel something, but it can very much happen that the ‘flames’ are just not there.

He started the conversation about it (he never outwardly spoke and initiated a conversation on a serious ‘relationship’ topic ever). Essentially said he was thinking about it today, and was almost a bit worried about how the relationship is changing. That he doesn’t feel as crazy infatuated at the beginning, not the same sense of nervousness. He ackwnowledged it might mean getting to know someone on a deeper level. He recognized essentially (though not directly) that sometimes he can be a bit bored/not crazy about me, and it’s just something he thought about, and something he was a bit scared of, how the nature of the relationship is changing. Whether it’s normal to feel this way

I said it’s normal that things change, relationships aren’t static, nor are feelings

I appreciated he spoke to me about it, though he’s DEFINITELY not the type of person to bring something like that up unless he thinks it is important.

I guess he voiced out pretty normal concerns, and probably something that (I hope) everyone feels at this 6/7 months mark. But for some reason I am worried that these concerns he’s having might just be the start of the road towards just subsiding feelings?

• This reply was modified 6 years, 1 month ago by Mathilde-S.