Dear anita:

So what would you suggest I do in regards to my feelings for him? I know the ongoing situation is toxic between us and causing a lot of hurt and anxieties to build up. I want to change as I realise I was living my life through him a lot and I know I have a lot of inadequacies that I need to address before I consider even to think about getting back together with him. But something inside me still holds out hope and I don’t want to let us go entirely 🙁