Dear Feathering:

I hope you reach a state of calm soon, before you meet him. Being prepared will help.

I too used to wonder “what magical trick these women possessed that made these men want to be with them instead of me”. Looking back, I think it was the fact that the other women maybe looked the men in the eye while I looked away, they were present, I was spaced out and absent. And then, I got angry soon enough. Anger is not attractive.

I wonder if anger is what he referred to when he said something like your friendly is not friendly (I don’t remember the exact wording)?

anita