Shelby,

Try not to be so hard on yourself. Anger/ resentment is only one of the stages of heart break. When this phase of my life bagan all I felt was pain – excruciating pain. This then manifested into a lot of anger, resentment, disappointment etc but it does take a while.

I must admit, it is much easier to deal with when you are angry at the other person because it is almost a form of acceptance. ‘You have done me wrong, I am hurt and angry about this, you do not deserve me!’. It almost gives you a kick up the bum to keep moving forward. It’s like a driving force but it will come eventually.

My situation is slightly different to yours as our break up was caused by his lack of backbone and as a result a trauma which I now have to deal with, perhaps that brought on the anger for me but I have heard that this is one of the natural stages of heartbreak.

Do you guys live nearby to one another at all?

I remember right at the beginning of our break I avoided all of the places where I could potentially bump into him and luckily for me this worked. I think if he did notice you today it’ll prompt him to avoid this route in the future. I do believe that it would’ve startled him just as much as it did you.

It is one thing having some sort of light contact and another seeing one another!