Dear J:

I refreshed my memory: it was your grandparents’ home where you and your husband lived while trying to sell your own home, and you were annoyed with your parents for not putting more work into the grandparents’ home. On another thread you were  annoyed with the trivial, repetitive conversations with your parents. But you  keep the relationship with your parents, no matter how annoying, correct? Most  adult children do.

The thing is, in the context of marriage, when your husband  annoys you (and  all  people do), unlike the context of the parents,  you feel that there is a way out, not having to endure the annoyances or boredom, having this option of another man. Another man is that greener grass  idea  you mentioned.

I think it is natural for any married woman to sometimes get tired  of her husband, no matter  how good the relationship. It is natural in any relationship. And then, it is natural to look for something interesting and exciting to replace  the boredom and the same-old-same-old.

Problem is, if the same-old-same-old includes trust, and he has been honest and loyal to you all these years, if you betray his trust, you would lose everything that matters. The excitement of the greener grass will weaken and die and the trust,  that ground under your feet, the ground on which you stood, will not be there anymore.

anita