Dear Feathering:

A few things in the quest of feathering you:

1. You have to be clear with yourself  and with others regarding what it is that you want. In regard to this man you wrote in the beginning of your thread that neither one of you belongs to the  monogamous camp, giving  me the impression that you are not interested in a  monogamous relationship. Later  on, it  became apparent to me that you are interested in a monogamous relationship  with him. Which one  is it then,  in your mind?

Got to be clear with him about what it is that you want  from him.

Then find  out what  he wants  from you and see  if there is  a  match.

2. You wrote that you don’t know who is a decent person and  who is not, let’s think about this man: do you think he is decent at times but when he  rejects you or doesn’t respond  to you in a timely manner, then feeling angry at him, you think he  is not decent, passive aggressive and so forth? It might be the anger talking. You can trust your evaluation  when not angry.

Well, these two things. Respond to these  if  you would like.

anita