Shelby,

I understand that completely. Sometimes love just isn’t enough.. it is a real shame!

I read that part of the book actually and I questioned how you can wish someone that you love so deeply to go on and continue a happy life without you?! I can’t quite understand this concept yet. It makes sense because you love them so you should wish them happiness at all times, but is it applicable to real life? I’m not so sure.

I want my ex to hurt at the loss just as much as I am hurting. I want him to wake up and realise what he has lost, as do I. I can’t just wish him happiness in life without me, or better yet with someone else – the thought of it actually makes me feel physically sick. I think that goes back to the idea of him being ‘my person’. When the reality is, he is his own person! Not mine!

We may not be able to imagine those days now but we have both admitted that we were quite confident women before these people came into our lives. I do hope to see that part of myself again because I was just so utterly and blissfully happy. On my own but happy. I really did not need anyone to contribute to that happiness, I just was. I’m hoping to regain that someday.