Dear Feathering:

People  like to feel welcomed: “he was  smiling as he sat down in front of me, a genuine smile with warmth“- he was welcoming to you and you loved  it!

People do not like to feel unwelcome, and anger is very unwelcoming: “this angry and  bitter side to me was an issue for him….it’s definitely over  for good this time. Sounds like she did not make him feel very welcome”-

These are  the basics  of human emotions and behavior. Anger ends relationships (many should be  ended) and  smile and warmth promote relationships.

Give him space then,  but also clarity, be clear with him and for as long as you are interested in a relationship with him (a win-win relationship),  be welcoming to him.

anita