Dear Janus, Earth Angel:

You are very welcome and thank you for your words of appreciation and good wishes for me.

I am glad you are having a cooperative working relationship with your chemistry lab partner, a win-win relationship. Regarding your questions about friends who  complain that you don’t give them enough of your time and energy: do  I not remember correctly that during the summer vacation you were quite friendless and depressed at home; where were those friends who now want your time and attention?

I suppose they are new friends? Your first and foremost priority really is your studies and your well being. If you don’t attend to your studies and well being, who will?

Attend to your studies- this is where your hope is, your future ability to make a living, to take care  of yourself.

Do-no-harm is a good policy as you interact with others, but to give your valuable time and energy and suffer for  it- that is unwise and you will suffer for it. No  benefit in that for you. You told a friend that you will  help with that site and you did help. You didn’t tell her that you will devote a certain of hours a day on that site, so you are not breaking your word.

Regarding this guy you are trying to avoid, keep avoiding him and  if needed, have school authority protect you from him harassing you- he should  not bother you in any way, shape or form. He shouldn’t approach you, shouldn’t talk to you,  none of that!

And you are not obligated to tell anyone your gender identity, you don’t have to. I get irritated reading about pressure anyone may be putting on you when I know how tough it has been for you, how little support you had from others (!), so I really want you to be okay with helping yourself, putting yourself first,  not others!

I hope I answered your questions. If not, let me  know.

Reads like you are  on top of things regarding the Fall  semester at the new school, this is indeed exciting! I hope you have a good Thanksgiving as well and understanding how busy you are,  I expect you to post here only when you have  the need and the time, not otherwise.

anita