I joined this forum coz I have been going thru similar situation. I’m from India which plays a very important role in my story. I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 3 years. We were literally that couple who everyone thought will marry. His family loves me. I love them too. Our relationship had everything love, passion, the connection, the understanding and everything. But my family never will accept him and in my country if you’ll havent heard is a sole reason for relationships succeeding or not. 6 months prior to this July we both started having problems he started behaving cold and distant. I was alarmed but then he is trying his luck in the film industry and his family financial situation went down so all the load was on him and I thought the stress of it and I’m from a privileged family so I assumed he just felt inferior so I let him be. Prior to this 6 months he never minded if I used his phone but after that his phone is always off or he doesn’t let me check it. I thought he needed some privacy and let it go. But then July one day I went thru his phone and I saw a chat history with this girl for 6 months. He was in a relationship with her. It shook me. I never in my wildest dreams expected this. When I called her up that nigh she said that he told her we both broke up. I couldn’t take it. I lost my mind and I had my very first mental breakdown. We fought we cried we hit each other and I stormed out of his place early morning. I was ready to forgive him thinking he just acted out because of his stress at home and everything. Later when I contacted him he said he needed some time but outta fear I started nagging him visiting him frequently which let to the same fights and crying and hitting. After two months of that I stopped. I gave him one month time and went and met him on Oct 3 rd. And he told me he is choosing her coz my family will never accept and they have been clear about it. I’m pursuing medicine and he is trying out in the film industry. He also mentioned that our careers are worlds apart and it would never work out. Thinking about it now the reasons were actually right. And he also said that girl has no family, she is all alone and he feels since he brought her into this he needs to be there for her and since she has gone thru so much in life he wants to make her happy and that he will marry her once he gets financially stable. I know this total story paints him as an asshole. But lemme tell you he stood by me and faced so many obstacles when my parents gave him a hard him. He loved me with everything he had. I guess he had no stability in his family not his career he wanted at least a stable relationship. Tho the way he chose to leave was wrong I don’t blame him for leaving. It was too much of a fight and he just couldn’t do it anymore. We do talk from time to time he misses me and I do too. we will always love each other. I guesss love it not just enough in the place where I come from. Had it been the case where my family accepted him our story would be totally different. I guess there is no use of pointing fingers anymore. He claims to be happy with her but each time I talk to him or run into him somewhere I can sense it and see it in his eyes how much he misses me. I really wish we had a happy ending but I guess some stories aren’t meant to have one.