Hi everyone,

Thank you so much for your help. We spoke about it and he said it was a fleeting thought and it only occurred because they had recently spoken. I think I am able to move past it but there are moments where fear grips me given their friendship history.

He reassured me again that nothing ever happened between them. That it was a fleeting thought. I asked if he finds her attractive, to which he said yes, and that just because he’s in a relationship doesn’t mean he can’t find other people attractive. This I agree with, but somehow this is different because in this case, she is a long time friend and I feel threatened as she will always be in his life.

I am not sure if there were other late night calls since that time. They had been really good friends since college and he’s always been there to lend an ear when she was having issues with her husband, then bf. When I first expressed my concerns about her about 5 months back: when I found out that she calls him here and there to chat (he says they talk maybe once a month and she’s usu the one to call), I asked him what could a pregnant woman and a single 30s male possibly be talking about, the fact that she is so comfortable expressing her thoughts with him, that he’s basically being emotionally available to her…he reassured me and I took it as them being friends.

Now, in light of this, I still want to believe that as he hasn’t given me any signs that I cannot trust him in our relationship. However, there are moments that I grapple with fear and jealousy–not being certain that both parties are not emotionally cheating with each other’s past such as fb and instagram likes.. I know I am being irrational and I am doing fine majority of the time, but there have been a couple occasions that I am reminded again of this and have that sick feeling to my stomach. I know I have to decide to let this go or deal with it another way.

I would appreciate any advice.

Thank you