Hi there,

I am also new here looking for advice,  I feel I won’t be able to offer the best. Reading through your posts though I did notice some similarities I can relate with so I will note them.

Like you, I also struggle with a quick tongue when emotional and have often said things I come to regret almost immediately. I also question far too much (What happened?, Did I do something wrong?, those kind of questions) and have been told by more than one ex that I am dramatic. I feel this boils down to low self-esteem and/or not really knowing who I am.

My ex partner displayed similar behavior to this guy, the difference being we were together for 18 months. We would text and call everyday, she was there, then suddenly she was not. She started to not answer or return my calls or texts and would have excuses every time. We would make plans and she would let me down every time (I was busy, I was asleep, too tired) without even so much as a text. I would say similar things like “Why would you not even text to let me know you can’t make our plans? It takes not even a minute…” She would hang up. Any excuse to, it seemed.

I decided to let go I am changing and don’t need behavior like that setting me back. It hurts and I am lost but that is why I am here to talk about things I am not so good at talking about in person. I told her when we met that I didn’t think I was ready and she pursued it anyway, I was too fearful of being alone to resist. Don’t make that same mistake. Get right with being alone somehow that is what I’m trying to figure out.