Hi Anita, regarding that anchor….

I have met someone who I like and I think they also like me. We’ve been talking everyday for more than a month now. However, I think my trust issues and insecurities get in the way of our relationship and I push them away even more. For example, I think it was only recently (in the last 2 years) I’ve anchored myself to people, a form of coping mechanism if you will and they become my purpose for my being and I devote myself to them.

I fear that my co-dependency will further harm our relationship. I don’t want to feel this way; I just hope the damage done is still recoverable. I want to change and live my own life but how can I change when my mind is plagued with negative thoughts? When I don’t know who I am or what I like? Or if my existence depends on a person meeting my physical and emotional needs?

Maybe I should go see a therapist….