I ended up seeing family members I disliked – I knew they were there and would use the techniques above but it failed, I said “hi” politely and the response was: “what hi” you have to greet like this blah blah with an indian greeting. Spoken to very rudely and I had just walked into the house or room. After that I left the room and never went back in unless I had to get something. I was really upset and almost in tears to be spoken like this. Trying to avoid these people as much as I can and in the end I had to turn up for an hour to say bye to some family. After this, i have decided to avoid these people and never see them again which i hope i can as they do not live that near me and i cant keep going on like this getting verbally abused or spoken down to. I felt so belittled by the man and all i said was hi and what is worse it was in front of many family members and everyone was silent. Please help!