Valora, i’ve been doing pretty good at redirecting.  Last night was difficult though.  I was trying to go to sleep and my mind was racing.  I got up and cleaned for a little bit.  That helped some.  I’m feeling better today though.

Well that’s good! I think you just have to kind of expect and accept the periods of sadness once in a while and just let those come and go as best you can too and don’t let yourself fall into a hole with it. The fact that you’re feeling better today says a lot, I think, as far as improvement/progress goes.  Just keep on redirecting those thought patterns and eventually they will space even farther apart… and with the holidays coming up, try not to reminisce or romanticize what it would be like with your ex (because you really only had ONE holiday season with her) and just enjoy the season with and appreciate the girlfriend you do have instead.