Kkasxo,

Its incredibly difficult hearing news like that, because it highlights what we want in full HD technicolour and are not receiving. If it made you feel a little sad in yourself, then it might be something to talk to your guy about with a view to it maybe becoming something that’s in store for the future.

Those kind of events are so draining for sure. Remember my big presentations- I was floored when I got home afterwards. So tonight just rest and unwind and tomorrow is a new day. Couple news can always land a blow, but it’s just the initial feeling of being disappointed. I remember when my friend got engaged a month after my split. It’s shit!

Victoria,

I think your ex is doing the best he can to deal with a situation he can’t control. He has to look after himself too I guess and you ended it with him, so I suppose he feels it’s not up to him to make any moves or gestures. In a sense then, it might be a case of you wanting him to be someone he’s not, or can’t be now. I don’t know, that might not be the case at all, but I seem some similarities between all of us. I watch videos by Matthew Hussey and he has one where he advises against the ‘one day’ bet. Hedging all you bets that one day it will work out to be what you want, one day he will grow or change to be who you want. But he explains that it’s a risky gamble and you’ll most likely end up broke!

You are still processing everything that’s going on, so how’s about working on something you CAN control? Like uni? Could you set yourself a mission of not missing any class for the next two weeks and then review how you feel?

Dont worry about catching up on pages either on this forum, if you miss something, just ask or I’ll fill you in as you come back on.

Oh btw – two exes (guys I hooked up with who eventually blew me off years ago) got in touch for my birthday. One went so far as to hush about how ‘stunning’ I am and have a beautiful soul. Too little too late I’m afraid. Absolutely zero interest. But isn’t it weird how they are coming out of the woodwork now? A bit random. Haven’t heard from them in years!