Dear Marina:

In the past you rushed, rushed expecting, then rushed checking (social media), then rushing to the next crush, t he next expecting and checking, rushing through.

My suggestion is that you slow down this time, in this new chapter in your life. Every time  you find yourself rushing with expectations, purposefully slow down, say to yourself: no,  this is too fast. I don’t  know him well enough yet, I don’t even know if he can legally stay in this country. It is too soon to expect, slow, slow…

And then, when you feel the urge to check  on him, don’t. Feel the urge and resist it, say to yourself, if you will: this is a new chapter  in  my life. I do things differently now. I don’t check. If I want  to know something, I can ask him directly.

anita