Hi Katie,
I don’t mean to downplay what he did AT ALL!! But the good news: He was only 14. Use that.
When someone brings it up, the response should be, “That was so long ago!” One day it will be.
“He was such a baby, he JUST turned 14 and now he’s like a different person.” One day he will be.
Is the court case still going on? If so:
“We’re not supposed to talk about it while the court case is still going on, but you know that he’s not the only person who spread the film around. They’re actually the one’s in more trouble.”
By the time he’s in college he’ll be That Kid. He’ll be “Oh, I remember That Kid, he went to my brother’s HS!”
By the time he’s out of college it’ll be, “Wasn’t there This Kid who…?”
By the time he’s 30, only one creep will be around (or remember, or care) to point out, “Hey! Weren’t you that kid who…?”
By 40 literally no one will remember. Even the girl will forgive him because she’ll have a 14 year old son and he’ll look like such a baby that she can’t help but to forgive him.
Again, I’m not minimizing this AT ALL!! I’m just giving you strategies to get you through this. I would also have everyone in the family get rid of all social media. You really do want people to forget and have it all get hazy in their memories.
Best,
Inky
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