Dear IpkR09:

Your sister was born, later you were born (how much older is your sister?).  Your father’s father didn’t like you being a girl so he wanted his son to give you up for  adoption. Your  mother didn’t want to do that,  so she asked her parents to take care  of you.  They did. Eventually you were brought back  to your parents home. Two daughters there,  your sister and  you. You tried to convince your parents (and maybe grandparents and everyone else) that you were worthy to be in their home.

You did better than your sister academically, and she was compared unfavorably to you,  that made her feel competitive  with you, jealous, maybe she was feeling that you were a sort of an outsider that came into the home  to outdo her, to take away from her. So she is still angry, trying to prevent you from having a relationship with a man, because she doesn’t have one. Angry, she cuts contact with you every so often.

Did I understand correctly?

After she cuts contact with you, is it you who is chasing her, trying to get her to talk to you again?

anita