Dear  Cali Chica:

Seeing reality as-it-is, really is the best way and the only way to mental health.

What all this means, this latest insight that I am having in this very communication with you, is that for the purpose of helping your sister, you have to withdraw all help from her.

In other words, you have  not been helping her. Every time you helped her so far, as an  adult, you have hurt her, every time.

The help she needs cannot  possibly come from you. If you are interested in her mental health, leave her alone and let her be. If it comes to it and she is not able to afford quality psychotherapy, pay for those sessions. That is all.

anita