Hi Maria Mango,

It IS an awful disease. He might need a change of medication, and/or he’s ALSO going through the normal stuff humans go through as well (i.e. work stress, mid-life crisis, temptation, financial worries). If it’s not his body chemistry, something happened to exasperate his condition.

I know it’s counter-intuitive, but YOU should go away for a weekend to relax and recharge. Your presence is a privilege, not a right. He doesn’t just get to fight with you just because he has depression. Of course, you don’t tell him that. You just say, “I don’t like that” and walk away. THEN a few days later say, “I’ll be back in an hour/on Sunday”. Find a weekly sanctuary like a church or a bookstore, somewhere where you can go in and just BREATHE.

Best,

Inky