Ash,

Just because you love your mother it doesn’t mean you have to keep taking that crap from her.

Of course she has selfish reasons for wanting you to have children, but she also maybe wants to worry less about you – to feel like you are “settled.”  Still, that’s no reason to keep nagging at you about getting married and having kids.

You have a right to tell her to stop it.  Make consequences, like blocking her, hanging up on her, if you want to do that.  It’s the kind of thing I did with my mom years ago to stop her criticizing and nagging, and it worked and now we have a good relationship.  But I do realize that it won’t work for everyone.  It took several tries with me (complete breaks from my mom for a while), and eventually she wanted to change.  Now our relationship has been really, really good – for many years.  I know it doesn’t always go that way, though.

I just think you have the right to be treated better, so if you can find any way to achieve that, it would really be best for your mental health.

Mimi