Maria Mango,

I have learned that living my life as a collection of what I should do/be does not serve me to live a healthy, conscious and happy life.  Shoulds are constructs imposed upon us from the outside, from others, from society, from tradition, etc.  It is something that may or may NOT fit us, who we are, who we want to be.  Being a stalwart supporting and caring partner by sacrificing our own happiness, peace of mind, mental and physical health is not a “should” that I would embrace.

Mark