Dear Wanderer:

I want to correct something I wrote to you in my recent post to you. I wrote: “Your mother I  am sure was a good mother in many ways”-

-correction: taken in isolation, certain behaviors on her part were good behaviors, ex.: her teaching you to practice safe sex. I believe that when there is repeated aggression on the part of the mother,  that aggression cannot be neutralized  by good behaviors. It doesn’t work that way because aggression by a parent towards her child is too powerful, too damaging to the child.

Therefore, a parent who displays aggression toward a child repeatedly is a bad parent.

anita