Dear Ambroxol:

You wrote: “Weird thing, I believe him, the way he said it… I know he was telling me the truth (or he is a master mind of lying, or sociopathic and  I doubt that)” – reads to me that some  of what  he told you was the truth, but not all. The part that was  not true is causing you confusion.

In other words,  he probably doesn’t lie all the time  (not a “master mind of lying, or sociopath”), but he lies sometimes.

Regarding his sister, you wrote: “she  says she would be happy for the two of us, but she is crazy and she does lie a hell of a lot”. She too doesn’t lie  all the time.

Reads to me that  he  was honest about liking your company, being attracted to you, being concerned with his sister, but it doesn’t read honest to me  that “he  really wasn’t that much into her.. that they are friends and  that she even knew about me.. blah blah, but that because this last time he traveled  for work they had sex because he was like confused about the whole thing”-

Maybe he wasn’t into her right away but he is now into her. And I don’t think he had sex with her  because he was confused, but because he wanted to, and he keeps wanting to.

My advice  is for you to separate the truth from the lies, the half lies, the twisting of things so to make himself sound less objectionable to you, and whatever else is his motivation. Mentioning motivation, better find  out what it is, in context  of his relationship with her and his communication with you, the  truth of it, that is.

anita